Monday, November 17, 2008


About an hour ago. Miscarriage. This will be abbreviated, because it lacks the, what would you call it, the freshness, the newness of the miscarriage from earlier this year. The wonder is gone.

Doctor's appointment is tomorrow, but there is precious little doubt about what happened. I have what you might call the corpse.

This time I'm totally unapologetic about talking about it.

After the initial animal shock/screaming/crying, a grim black humor has descended. A sarcastic numbness is in place. I'm too angry to feel tender and sentimental.

I can feel something like painless contractions continuing as I type.

I had to listen to goddamn Pachelbel again on the hold music for the doctor's office. It's farcical, really. I used to like that piece of music. I used to love it, actually. Thanks, Seattle Ob/Gyn Group. Maybe when I come for my appointment tomorrow you can fix my favorite meal and have my favorite scents wafting through your waiting room.

The contractions are getting a touch more painful. Well. That seems realistic.

More later. I appreciate all your congratulations, truly, and I'm sorry to give you whiplash again.

Baby, I will feel more for your absence as soon as I am able. I promise.


Kris McN said...

Oh, Lady, I am so, so sorry.

Cara said...

Oh Tina I am so sorry. I am sending you much much love.

DL said...

I am so so so sorry. I have no words but thank you for letting us know.

Anonymous said...

Much love to you. I am so sorry.

I would be happy to bring you your second favorite food or steal away Finn for awhile if you'd like some time all to yourself.

girlysmack said...


I know we have not met (yet?) but my heart is breaking. I am so sorry, Tina. What else, really, is there to say?

Boliath said...

I'm sorry, there's not much else to say really, I've sadly been there and it hurts. Give yourself time to grieve lost hopes and dreams. I wish you comfort and offer true sympathy.

meuterosa said...

I'm so terribly sorry. Please let us know if there is anything at all we can do. We're sending much love your way.