tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13537757.post116971266886218438..comments2023-10-12T01:05:43.433-07:00Comments on the gallivanting monkey: cloudsTina Rowleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13982100203591837083noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13537757.post-1170478824434454662007-02-02T21:00:00.000-08:002007-02-02T21:00:00.000-08:00Well, I can say this:When my grandfather died we f...Well, I can say this:<BR/><BR/>When my grandfather died we found out he'd been having a ten year long affair. He had keep journals on the details and let them in a place relatively easy for my grandmother to find upon his death. He left my grandmother nothing except a townhouse they'd been renting out. The house they'd lived in for the greater part of their marriage was willed to be sold and the profits to be divided among his surviving children. <BR/><BR/>On the other hand, he was a wonderful grandfather. He loved me and my sister and was fun to play with. He was a difficult man to deal with for other adults. Moody, cantankerous, demanding.<BR/><BR/>We grieve our perception of their perfection.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13537757.post-1169802720182755232007-01-26T01:12:00.000-08:002007-01-26T01:12:00.000-08:00Thanks, Shortie. That was a really thoughtful rep...Thanks, Shortie. That was a really thoughtful reply.Tina Rowleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13982100203591837083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13537757.post-1169745190924388372007-01-25T09:13:00.000-08:002007-01-25T09:13:00.000-08:00What do you do? I guess you rant and rave at your...What do you do? I guess you rant and rave at your support network (Dave or whomever -- perhaps whomever told you the truth) for a while, and then realize that what those people did THEY own -- not you. If what they did affected/affects someone still living you have some avenues for concrete action, but otherwise, you rant and rave and then you put it (and them, and sometimes whatever respect or love you had for them) to rest in your own mind, because it was their problem, their error. You be grateful that you have the strength and knowledge and character and live in the circumstances which allow you NOT to do what they did -- be grateful you live with people who wouldn't do what they did and who see it as as reprehensible as you see it. Time is likely the only thing that makes your anger at them for not being those types of people go away, but you can feel gratitude for your circumstances at the same time that you're waiting to be less pissed at them. I think. It doesn't sound like it was a fun revelation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com